there are certain standards of mental health, law, culture and morality in each society.Social norms often suppress the instincts and desires of the individual.But if you want to understand and accept surrounding you, you need to somehow comply with these standards.For example, seeing a beautiful blooming flower bed at the same time and following the social norms, you inhale the aroma and admire flowers instead break them up and carry away.Naturally, educating your child, you are trying to teach him to the same course of action.And yet, even in respectable parents of children's behavior often goes beyond the prescribed norms of society.This behavior psychologists call deviant, antisocial, inadequate, and so on.What is the phenomenon of children with behavioral problems and how to deal with it?
In fact, children with behavioral problems - not such a rarity.Some deviations not only cause indignation of parents and teachers, but also carry the seeds of future misconduct, posing a threat
The basis of inadequate behavior of the child are negative affective experiences associated with dissatisfaction important needs for him.When the evaluation of their abilities, based on the previous achievements of the child, does not correspond to the current situation and the need to recognize the inconsistency, affective experiences occur in some children.Rather than re-evaluate their claims, the children exhibit inadequate response to failure - increased resentment, stubbornness, isolation, emotional instability, confusion, denial.For example, if a school child to have success in English, and received the praise of the teacher, then enrolling in another school, where his achievements do not stand out from the other students, he can begin to resent the teacher and assume that the cost is unfair to him.Inadequate child's behavior - a kind of defensive reaction designed to help in the event of failure.In order not to lower self-esteem, the child begins to blame the parents, teachers, the nearest environment circumstances, fate.Inadequate child's behavior causes the responses of teachers and parents that in turn increases the affective experiences.The circle closes.
Talking about anti-social behavior of children, psychologists say that it arises as a result of violations of the interaction of the individual with the environment.Children with anti-social behavior are divided into four groups:
In the most tragic cases, deviations in behavior of the child take an extreme form - suicide.Psychologists believe that suicidal behavior in children associated with ambivalence to death - the death of the child perceives as a means of manipulation, for example, imagining my mother upset, but the irreversibility of the effects is not conscious.
Usually suicidal behavior in children aims to attract attention, it is preceded by depression, boredom, loneliness, isolation, aggression towards the environment.Sometimes suicidal behavior takes a latent form, when the child selects the extreme sports, is a dangerous group, taking drugs.
The causes of suicidal behavior in children include conflicts with parents, peers, the immediate environment, a lack of understanding in the school.At the same time the children often refuse help from an adult.
Usually, children with behavioral problems are difficult to make contact with teachers, psychologists, adult, explaining that the phrase "I do not understand."Indeed, to create a trusting relationship with the child, you need to have a share of sympathy, interest in his life, hopes and anxieties, to be able to patiently listen, give advice, empathy, and time to move from free communication to the leadership.Not every parent is able to, and certainly not every teacher.But the only way to reach out to children with behavioral problems, they form a notion of universal values, develop moral positive traits and qualities of character, as well as help to adequately assess the picture of the world and to be accepted in society.
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