Child education Problems 3 years

Parenting a child 3 years in most cases determined by the age crisis, which is associated with the transition from early childhood to preschool.This period occurs in all children in their own way, but in most cases it is characterized as unstable and requires special attention and patience on the part of parents.

main symptoms three years

crisis In order to adjust their actions when raising a child of 3 years, it is necessary to notice the symptoms of a developing crisis.They were first described Elsa Keller in his work "On the individual three year old child," where she highlighted:

  • negativism.Its main manifestation - refusal to obey adults, their needs, and even the normal way of life.Child psychologists say that in the upbringing of a child 3 years must be distinguished from the usual negativity of disobedience.The main difference is that the child does not do exactly what he is asked to adults, regardless of the content itself requests or suggestions.The desire to be contrary can reach in some
    cases to the point of absurdity, when the white kid called black;
  • stubbornness.The desire to have his own at that age can take quite categorical form.In this particular motives usually this does not occur, but the child, despite all reasonable arguments can continue to stand on its original decision;
  • Shrew is not directed against a particular adult, and, in principle, against the existing norms of education and lifestyle.Also, if the education of the child is 3 years old, parents should be prepared to that their kid will start rejecting all the usual favorite toys and entertainment, offering nothing in return;
  • Self-will, which is expressed in the desire to show independence in all matters;
  • Depreciation, which manifests itself in an attempt to curse and call those who are dear to him, including the parents.Also at this time, the child may lose the value of your favorite toys that he can easily break or throw;
  • protest, revolt, which manifests itself in the frequent quarrels with parents, a constant state of conflict with them and other people;
  • Despotism, which is more likely to occur in families with one child.While raising a child 3-4 years, parents should be prepared for the fact that their baby may be willing to put pressure on others.He may require them to perform what he wants at this point in time in spite of the reasonable arguments about the necessity of an action (eg, child have to go to kindergarten, because the mother goes to work).It's like trying to go back to the infancy of the child, when in fact his every desire fulfilled unconditionally.

Almost all the symptoms affect the child and the people who surround him.Young parents with child rearing three years may seem like a baby just a bad character, but it is not.Crisis psychologists associated with the restructuring of the child's social relationships with people around him and the emergence of preconditions for independent work as a child tends to be like adults.

Features of raising a child 3 years

In order to develop the right approaches to child-rearing in the 3-4 years, it is necessary to understand the major changes that occur in this age with the kid:

  • Vofirst, usually by age three the child's body reaches a sufficient development for the manifestation of independence.The kid becomes a real researcher is not only the world, but their own capabilities.Therefore, he has a caveat to any help from parents and restriction of its activity;
  • Second, psychologists believe that in this age of "born" child's personality.When raising a child of 3-4 years it should be understood that the baby begins to psychologically move away from their parents and be aware of themselves as a separate person.The most consumed in this age of the phrase becomes "I myself."His inner conflict is caused by the desire to be independent, in the knowledge of their dependence on the care and love of parents;
  • Thirdly, many symptoms of the crisis may be associated with errors in the upbringing of the child is 3-4 years old, when my parents just did not notice that their baby has grown and, therefore, it was necessary to change a lot in communion with him.

usually easier to just three years of crisis occurs in families where the child originally is not the center of all family life.In the families where the baby is not to patronize excessively parents and other relatives, usually in the child more opportunity for free development and, therefore, much less cause for protest.

taking place with the baby changes can not ignore or suppress the authoritarian methods.Once and for all stop the unwanted behavior the baby can not afford any parents.Therefore, the education of a child three years old, parents should take their child with all the problems of the crisis age and try to minimize the negative consequences of this period.Do not expect:

  • What child will adequately respond to requests or prohibitions;
  • What kid would be accommodating and quick to agree with any suggestion of their parents;
  • that he would not express negative emotions.

This all manifested symptoms at this age need to treat with understanding, because it is now laid many character traits that will determine the further fate of the child.Many psychologists advise at educating a child of 3-4 years to understand that the "fight" with the child at this age can not, and need to look for new ways to communicate with him.

psychology opinion to overcome the crisis need to look for the "golden" middle.This is due to the fact that the unlimited freedom of the child causes the same damage as restrictive.Therefore, the baby should be given more autonomy, but at the same time it should not be ignored, letting the process take its course.The best solution is cooperation aimed at comprehensive development, and the support that the baby will appreciate.Young parents in overcoming the crisis of the age of three can help to book a famous teacher Montessori "Help me do it myself", which sets out effective methods of raising a child 3 years.

If symptoms persist, which in many respects resemble the crisis of adolescence, should not attempt to "crush" the child's own authority, and respecting their desire for independence, need to show more flexibility and resourcefulness, try to entrain its new games, outdoor activities, developmental activities.Perhaps the first time the baby and does not listen to the words of the parents, but with all the readiness to contest all the offers he eventually they can take, if he thinks that he is the initiator.

When a child of three years the education you need to understand that children's revolt is needed to ensure that the child was able to better understand themselves and develop the necessary independence for life.

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